my approach
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
What to Expect
Below, you’ll find a brief overview of some of the tools and lenses I use most often.
You don’t need to know anything about these approaches beforehand—I’ll meet you wherever you are.
An IFS-Informed Lens
I primarily work from an Internal Family Systems (IFS)-informed perspective. This approach sees the mind as made up of different “parts”—each with its own emotions, beliefs, and roles. You might notice a part of you that’s always bracing for something to go wrong, another part that shuts down to keep you safe, or one that criticizes everything you do.
In IFS, we don’t try to get rid of these parts. We get to know them. We understand how they’re trying to protect you, even if their strategies no longer serve you. Over time, we help these parts soften—so you can live from a place of more calm, clarity, and self-trust.
EMDR, When the Past Still Feels Present
When past experiences feel stuck in the body or keep looping in the mind, I may integrate EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) into our work. EMDR is a gentle, evidence-based method for helping the nervous system release unprocessed memories and emotional residue from trauma, attachment wounds, or distressing events.
This doesn’t mean rehashing everything in detail. With care and pacing, we help the brain do what it’s naturally wired to do—heal.
Experiential, Present-Moment Therapy
While I draw from structured approaches, I also believe in the power of simply being human together. Much of our work will be grounded in the here and now—paying attention to what’s happening inside you, in your body, and between us. This experiential focus can help you connect more deeply to your emotions, needs, and boundaries.
Therapy with me is relational, warm, and collaborative. You don’t have to be polished or articulate. You don’t have to figure things out alone. You just have to show up, and we’ll go from there—together.
A Note on Attachment
You don’t have an attachment “style” because something is wrong with you. You learned ways of connecting and protecting yourself based on what your relationships taught you—especially early ones. That’s not pathology. That’s adaptation.
I work with both anxious and avoidant patterns, and everything in between. For clients who feel anxious in relationships, our work often focuses on self-compassion, honoring your emotional needs, and letting go of the shame that says you’re “too much.” With more avoidant clients, we often explore how intimacy can feel threatening—and how control, criticism, or withdrawal might be protecting something tender underneath.
Whatever your experience, I don’t see you as broken or “stuck in a style.” I see attachment work as relational healing—something that unfolds in the safety of being seen, understood, and gently challenged when needed.
